When the world is full of alarm and our children show signs of anxiety, what are we to do? After briefly looking at how the alarm system is meant to work, we will then explore what happens when it gets overworked. Finally, we will look at interventions and practices that can help our children who come to us and need help managing in a restless world.
When things are not going as we want them to, emotions rise and things can go over the top leading to tantrums and attack. This presentation will introduce the underlying emotion of frustration, and then explain why some children have a hard time managing their frustration. We will look at ways of intervening that have proven to be the most effective for helping these children.
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The importance of relationship in a time that requires adaptation
Eva de Gosztonyi - April 15, 2020
Covid19 has changed our world dramatically and we are all working hard at coping with this new reality, particularly those of us who are parents and/or educators. This session will focus on how we can remain the strong attachment figures our children need as we lead them along this uncharted path. Even in these uncertain times, we can provide the conditions that will help our children to become adaptative and resilient.
Why do children play and why do they need to play? We are now learning that play is more important than we ever thought both in terms of brain development and also for emotional well-being. Join us to find out about why play is so important, about different kinds of play and about how you can support your playful child.
Even well-developing teens can be frustrating – they seem to be so smart and yet act in ways that defy logic. And then we have the challenging youth who have even more problems getting things right. This presentation will review current brain research on the normal development of the teen brain. Then we will look at the effects of adverse childhood experiences on brain development. This information will help with understanding the roots of challenging behaviours. The underlying framework for this presentation is the Neufeld attachment-based developmental paradigm.
When youth lash out, be it verbally, physically or even inwardly, we do all we can to change this violating and dangerous behaviour. So many of the conventional responses to these behaviours only seem to make them worse or serve to push them “underground”. Using the Neufeld paradigm, we will explore aggression’s emotional roots. With this new understanding we will then look at interventions that are more likely to help alter these behaviours.
Youth who are challenging are usually stuck emotionally. This presentation will allow the participants to understand how to help youth soften their defenses so that growth can happen. The key to these interventions is a safe relationship with a caring adult who can protect and guide all the while providing a space for emotional expression. The road is not always easy, even when relationships are strong. Suggestions will be made for how to hold on to the youth when times are rocky.
Jamie Orchard speaks with Eva de Gosztonyi from the Centre of Excellence for Behaviour Management about what kind of support schools could provide for bullies. She believes that these children are vulnerable and need help and shares a few interesting suggestions to help change behaviour.
YouTube clip (4min 56sec) - Published on Jul 25, 2017
This video reframes a trauma perspective in terms of learning brain versus survival brain as a way to make it easier for teachers to talk about trauma with students.
Podcast: Conversations with Alanis Morissett
Episode 19: Conversation with Gordon Neufeld
In this podcast, Alanis talks with Gordon Neufeld about developmental psychology, the power to parent, and the value in staying connected with our children as they get older.
Getting Unstuck: Shift for Impact talks to us about Reclaiming Our Students
Hannah Beach and Tamara Strijack
Hannah Beach and Tamara Strijack join Jeff Ikler and Kirsten Richert on their podcast, Getting Unstuck, to talk about Reclaiming Our Students and the huge potential for every single person who cares about children’s learning to create deep, meaningful change through relationship.
What our Kids really need from us Right Now
On ParentTalk, Geneviève and Heather are thrilled to be welcoming back, Dr. Deborah MacNamara, Clinical counsellor, Faculty at the Neufeld Institute, Speaker, and Author. We will be talking about what our kids really need from us Right Now! These are unprecedented times and we need to be there for our children during this confusing and uncertain time. Find out how you can best support them.
Say Sorry! – How Forced Sorries do More Harm than Good
On ParentTalk, Geneviève and Heather are welcoming Dr. Deborah MacNamara, Clinical counselor, Faculty at the Neufeld Institute, Speaker, and Author, to talk about how forcing sorries can do more harm than good.